iluvchrom:

wtf the fuck at all of these posts i’m seeing on my dash defending outright emotional manipulation and abuse in friendships/relationships in general.

if you are at a point in your relationship with someone where:

  • they are openly (however passive aggressively) jealous about you spending time with people who aren’t them
  • they demand your attention above everyone else’s, or above other things you have going on in your life
  • they force you to fulfil a quota of communication with them every day, like communication with them is something you owe them instead of something that should com naturally for both of you
  • you have to walk on eggshells around them to avoid making them angry at you
  • they refuse to apologise for treating you badly becuase they ‘can’t help’ it
  • you feel guilty doing things that aren’t talking to them in case it upsets them
  • if you are generally interacting them out of a perceived obligation or fear of upsetting them rather than a genuine desire to speak to them
  • A MULTITUDE of really unhealthy shit

that is not healthy. that is not a sign of a healthy friendship. stop defending this shit. 

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perpugilliam:

with every passing week, I get angrier about Doctor Who 

I think the only reason I keep watching at this point is the frail, fragile hope that maybe, maybe, next week will be better

Thank God! Someone else feels the same way.

darael:

well-red-quaker:

darael:

katalizi:

The Caretaker

NO HE FUCKING ISN’T. SHUT UP MOFFAT.

EVEN WHEN THE DOCTOR FOUGHT IN THE TIME WAR

HE WAS NEITHER SOLDIER NOR OFFICER

He was a Renegade before the last great Time War, and that didn’t change during it. I have heard a distinction drawn between soldiers and warriors (soldiers organise together and their skills emphasise the group, whereas warriors have skills focusing on the impact of the individual. A lot of combatants are both to some extent, of course.) and the Doctor, when he has to be, is a warrior. He is never a soldier, but neither is he an officer. He neither leads nor follows, he just does.

I think you’re missing the point here, and tbh this was the moment that made me like Danny Pink.

Being an officer isn’t about whether or not he’s been in the military and what role he played there. It’s entirely about the way he behaves around people - the way he gives orders and expects them to be carried out unquestioningly, the way he uses people as assets without hesitation or remorse, the way he naturally assumes in every situation he’s going to be the leader.

It is, as Danny hints at, about class - it’s about the fact that the Doctor (mainly Twelve, Twelve far more than any other new!Who Doctor but in a way that for me is very reminiscent of One) is a Time Lord and knows it. This is a Doctor who is acting like he comes from an intergalactic aristocracy, because, well, he does. 

The Doctor when he is alone is a warrior, not a soldier, yes. But this isn’t about how he acts when he’s alone, it’s about how he acts when he’s in a group. When the Doctor is in a group, he takes on a role in that group - is a leader of men, a commander. When he has around him a group of soldiers, he takes on the role that he thinks is rightfully his - he becomes the officer. 

Y’know what?

Th’art right. Except for one thing: there is a new!Who Doctor who was at least close in the being-a-Time-Lord-and-knowing-it, and that is Ten-as-Time-Lord-Triumphant. It just didn’t last long.

During his time in the amy as a sergeant, I can’t see Danny not having exactly the same expectation of any enlisted personnel doing what he tells them to do when he tells them. Hell, even as a teacher he’d have to have that expectation of his students.

(When he talks to Clara about ‘officers’ pushing people to do what they didn’t think themselves capable of, there’s every likelihood that he’s talking at least partially about himself. Because it’s always Drill Sergeant, isn’t it, who have the job of taking recruits and making them into the soldiers who follow officers?)

The Doctor doesn’t act the way he does because he’s an aristocrat — for the first  six years of the show we’d never heard of Gallifrey or the Time Lords.

(Though admittedly maybe Three could be argued to have acted rather more like the Lefty Gentry than any other incarnation.)

He doesn’t expect people to kow-tow because of the circumstances of his birth. He acts the way he does because almost without fail he’s the smartest person in the room, the man with the plan and hundreds of years more experience and learning to call on granting him a perspective they lack. Most of the people he meets are either utter bastards ruining life for everyone, or else clearly incapable of helping themselves sometimes to the point that they will mess up the very efforts intended to aid them.

Basically, when people don’t listen to the Doctor, people die.

Because sure, In the words of Aeryn Sun, he is what he always has been, and that is superior. And sometimes that means he also has a bad habit of being an irritable prick towards people whom he feels don’t recognise or accord proper respect to the effort he’s put in to becoming who and what he is: the one chance the people he shouts at have of living to see another day

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I’ve seen a stupid number of people who are trying to make out this scene is about Danny being a controlling alpha-male Nice Guy jerk.

It’s not. And it pains me to defend Moffat’s writing, especially given his amply demonstrated attitude towards his female characters and their relationships with men, but here he’s actually getting it right.

It’s about someone who is a survivor of a traumatic experience who recognises that someone he cares for — and who despite her frankly contemptuous behaviour towards him claims to reciprocate that affection — is engaged in what he feels to be the same toxic situation that adversely affected him. He wants to be there for her, but given all the pre-existing baggage dogging the relationship, he’s also very sensibly setting boundaries for his own sake on how far he’s willing to participate in something his behaviour in the TARDIS indicates is incredibly triggering.

At no point does Danny tell her that if she really loved him she can’t run around with Space-Dad and his creepy controlling incest vibe. He accepts that it’s going to happen the same way people accept their loved ones BASEjump. He just tells there that he’ll be there for her but that there’s a point beyond which he cannot help her if she closes him out. And that if she insists on excluding him, he’ll take the pain of walking away over the pain of being able to do nothing and be forced to watch.

Danny isn’t a Nice Guy, and any attempt to put that label on him is a gross misreading of the character. And frankly, also sexist, because he’s not doing anything that Martha didn’t, or Tegan for that matter, and they were both lauded for being brave enough for recognising there was a line they couldn’t move beyond and walking away when they ended up in front of it.

He is a good person doing his best in a difficult situation.

(Also, ex-soldier teaching maths? That gets me right in the Brigadier feels, and for Moffat not to have the Doctor get that — or to show every sign of not getting that — is absolutely heart breaking.)

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"karmaplus: I Asked my 9 year old cousin Emma if she wanted to be on the phone with me when she watched DW tonight. She’s only allowed to stay up late when DW is on - it’s on an hour later here in Denmark, timezones yo. (she has watched all episodes in the past year and I introduced her yay!)
But her response broke my heart:
“no he’s making fun of Clara. She’s not fat, mom says. He’s not nice. I don’t like it anymore.”
Her mom then told me Emma had asked her if ‘she was big and had big hips? and if the doctor wouldn’t like her either?’
Her mom said “but the doctor loves Clara!”
she then simply responded “no, that’s not how you treat friends. I would be told off in school if I did that.”
and that’s basically all have to say. My almost 9 year old’s biggest hero has made her feel fat. Please, Moffat, can’t you write one single episode without making sexist jokes. Please. Please."

We are Groot: I am so heartbroken by the convo I just had with my cuz  (via rhaegarrs)

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petition for steven moffat to leave the previously established events and timeline of Doctor Who bloody well enough alone 

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perpugilliam:

iainanddaleks:

stephadoo:

Petitioning for the Doctor to stop insulting Clara’s physical appearance every single episode because it’s getting really annoying. 

Excuse me ?
Wasn’t there a scene where he said that “you took your make up off” and she said that she hadn’t
That means the doctor thinks Clara looks “make upped” normal meaning her face without make up is beautiful already

Uh, no.

The dialogue is this, after Clara says something about possibly getting a phone call from Danny (meaning she would go back out again and not go with the Doctor):

DOCTOR: It’s too late, you’ve taken your makeup off.
CLARA: No! I haven’t! I’m still wearing my makeup!
DOCTOR: Oh, okay, you probably just missed a bit.

…which means “oh what do you mean you might go out again, you’re not going to go out again, your makeup is gone, thus, you look terrible” and, after her response, “bless, you just THINK you’re still wearing your makeup because you didn’t get it all off.” It doesn’t mean that he thinks she looks beautiful without it. The implication is if he thinks she looks bad now, when she’s clearly wearing full makeup, he must think she looks absolute horrific without any makeup at all.

And then there’s this bonus gem when the Doctor is talking to Orson about whether or not Clara is familiar: “Well, do you have any old family photographs of her? You know, probably quite old and really fat-looking.”

I’m predicting this episode will be incredibly polarising on a number of levels.

Moffat must be creaming himself though: the Doctor’s grumpiness is basically giving him cart blanche to continually fling gendered insults. Yet paradoxically, he’s just had Clara send the TARDIS back where it’s never ever been meant to be able to go, and he’s had not one but two young boys basically imprint on his super special snowflake companion who’s already saved the Doctor everytime ever.

"The Oldest Question in the Universe"

thedoctordanceswithrose:

Alright, I’m just going to say a thing. I’ve got a LOT of problems with the Moffat era, alright? A lot. One of my BIGGEST problems though is the whole “the oldest question in the universe…Doctor Who?” crap. Let me just tell you why. One of the main components of Doctor Who is that you take this alien…this special, out of this world - literally - crazy alien who travels around through time and space, that whether he likes it or not, interferes in the lives of others and does, in fact, change history. What he and the audience are reminded of during the show though, is that the Doctor is not the be-all, end-all of the universe. He’s just not. Even Eleven tells Amy, “I really am just a madman with a box.” It is quite literally impossible for the oldest question in the universe to be “Doctor Who?” because the Doctor is not the oldest creature in the universe…he’s not even the oldest Time Lord. Gallifrey was around long before the Doctor.

Let’s also go back to “The Impossible Planet”/”The Satan Pit.” The second the TARDIS lands on the ship on Krop Tor, the Doctor and Rose spot some writing on the wall…funny thing about this writing…they can’t read it. Why not? Because the TARDIS can’t translate it. Why can’t the TARDIS translate it? Because as the Doctor explains, the writing is old- older than the TARDIS, older than the Doctor himself. Throughout the episode, the Doctor calls into question his own beliefs…beliefs and rules that he has made for himself based on what he knows. What a wake-up call to realize even he doesn’t know everything. This episode is brilliant in that it shows the very human quality of the Doctor’s arrogance. He assumes that he is completely right in what he knows about the universe but then the Doctor realizes, or rather, is reminded that’s why he travels…to learn - to challenge what he already knows because as he says, “‘Day I know everything…might as well stop!”

The Doctor doesn’t know all. He can’t know all. He can’t have all the answers and not everything begins and ends with him, which is the sort of feeling one gets when watching episodes from the Moffat era. So really, with the Doctor being finite, flawed, and at times extremely human, it is absurd to suggest that the Doctor is tied up with the “oldest question in the universe” because that’s an extremely big statement. There were people and civilizations and beliefs BEFORE the universe and BEFORE the Doctor and obviously even after the universe came into being so the idea that “Doctor Who?” is the oldest question in the universe is frankly ridiculous and makes him out to be some sort of god-like figure and though I love the Doctor, I agree with him, he’d make an extremely bad god.

The Doctor has to be reminded, whether it be by companions or events in his life, that in the grand scheme of things, he is small. He is one person in the entire universe in the whole expanse of time itself. The Doctor is this larger than life figure…this ridiculous, adventurous, loving, completely mad person but at the same time, he’s just one person. He is the last of his kind (in theory) and thus feels a responsibility to protect the universe, driven in large part by a guilty conscience and obviously he’s not human so there are things that he will be able to do that are extraordinary and completely unique to a Time Lord. However, there are limits to what he can do and what he is entitled to do. By making the oldest question in the universe revolve around him….one man in the entire universe in the whole of time itself….gives a certain importance to him that I think rather misses the point of the lonely traveler trying, and unfortunately but inevitably failing to save everyone. Like the Doctor says, the universe is vast and magnificent and as his fascination with humanity proves, so much bigger and so completely full of more surprises and mysteries than he will ever understand.

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wonderwomanv2:

"I don’t need a sword"

I think the doctor just subtly flipped off Robin Hood.

CAPALDI.

I choose to interpret this as an easter egg referencing the scene from the Costner Robin Hood film.

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nudiemuse:

tokenblackgermannativefriend:

My camera sucks, my head is shiny and I did my own make up but I felt like being my alter ego punk Harley * I feel more confident when im her*

You are fucking flawless.

Dorothy “Ace” McShane / Harleen “Harley Quinn’ Quinzel mashup? yessssss please.

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